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Happy Father's Day!!
This is for my dad!! He is an amazing man that gives generously and never asks for anything in return. He has always been there for me and my sister Crystal. He is a Christian man that is full of integrity and everyone that knows him respects and loves him. He was there for me in my darkest time after Kirk passed away. Here is the background story of my dad and what transpired on June 25, 2011.
When my dad received the call that Kirk was gone, he was on his way home from taking a friend back to his nursing home after his visit for the day. My dad was the second one there, but was about 45 minutes out when he received the call. I don't even want to know how fast he drove to Kirk's shop. He promised me that we would get it all figured out and that he would take care of getting everything arranged. Kirk had his own mechanics shop and needless to say there were a lot of tools, tool boxes, paperwork, big pieces of equipment, your typical mechanics shop. My dad owns a salvage and lumber business so he has several big trucks that he hauls big quantities of material. The day after Kirk passed, several volunteers showed up and helped my dad and uncle and they cleaned out Kirk's business in one day. We were afraid that other tenants would find out about Kirk's passing and would try and make themselves at home in his shop. It wasn't in the best part of Indianapolis. So once they got it all into trucks, then they had to spread it out in several buildings until we were able to start the process of an estate. After Kirk's services, then the time came to finish out his business and settle an estate that we had to get going with help from a lawyer and an accountant, not to mention Kirk's bank. My dad was with me every step of the way. Even though I kept and still live in my house that Kirk and I had together, my mom and dad turned a spare bedroom into a very nice room for Emily and me to stay and crash the months after Kirk's passing. My dad ran out and bought mattresses and made sure we were comfortable. He helped me so much with the business end of the estate and made sure all of Kirk's tools, equipment, and trucks were sold at the right price. Without my dad, I am not sure what I would have done. We are never prepared for any death, but a sudden death of your husband that owns his own business is a tough process to go through. Not only do you mourn after your husband, but also his business and all the what could have been. My dad still continues to look after our best interest and helps me with anything that my crazy mind might come up with at the spur of the moment. Happy Father's Day to you dad!! Your the best!!
As for Kirk, I couldn't have asked for a better husband and father to Emily. He adored her and loved her with all of his heart. He wasn't sure about being a dad when I told him we were going to have a baby, but he sure did hit it out of the ballpark. I know Emily misses him so much. She brings him up from time to time and I am always telling her stories or sharing old pictures that his friends share on Facebook. She loves hearing them and seeing him with his long, curly hair. He was a guitarist in a couple of bands back in the eighty's so he definitely had the hair!! I sure wish Kirk could share in her accomplishments. I know he would be so proud of her and would love to be right there. But Emily and I also understand that God called him home for a purpose. We have asked the Why? question but we know that we might never know the answer until we are reunited with Jesus and Kirk one day. Proverbs 3:5 NIV says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding." This verse was given to us by our counselor Debbie at our very first session with her and it's the one that I have kept in my heart for these past four years. We do not understand, but God has a plan and had one from the very start. It's hard to get a nine year old to understand that at the time, but now that she is almost 14 she gets it now. I am astounded by her love of Jesus and it fills my heart to hear her sing hymns and praising Jesus even when she could be mad for the sudden passing of her daddy.
I know today is a tough day for a lot of us. The moms have to be both parents now and our children are without their daddy. As other families celebrate their dads, we need to remind our children that they are not fatherless. They have a Heavenly Father that loves and cares for them more than they can fathom. In Psalms 68:4-6 tells us, "Sing to God, sing in praise of his name, extol him who rides on the clouds; rejoice before him-his name is the Lord. A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land." Please remind your children of this. I know it won't bring back their dads that they are missing, but it will hopefully give them hope and know that God is merciful and salvation lies in Him and Him alone!!
Lord, please watch over all of these children that do not have a daddy here on Earth but they have You to soothe their pain and hurt. I pray that these children seek you and strive to know you and thirst for your word. Only Your word gives us what we need, there we find comfort and healing. I pray for all the widows that are both mom and dad now. I pray for their rest and comfort Lord. It's a hard position to be in, but You picked us for a reason Lord. Thank you for always being there at our right hand guiding and helping us every step of the way. In your Precious Name..Amen!!
Kirk on Father's Day June 2011. This is the last photo of him taken. Just six days after this picture he passed away. The cake was his favorite cake that I made him and my dad and brother in law every Father's Day. A strawberry Jello poke cake. He loved it.
This is my dad while we were waiting on our lunch at Outback. We normally eat lunch together after church every Sunday. He doesn't like his picture taken as you can tell. He is an incredible man and dad. Thank you Lord for blessing my sister and me with him.
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